So LYLY tagged me to complete this little quiz-ette.

Ironically its to list 5 things that calm me down(list to follow my rant).

 On Thursday I had a very stressful appt. at the ob/gyne office. They want me to see a perinatologist but the research my husband and I have done indicate that in our circumstances, such a test (level II ultrasound at 13 wks) is pointless and will only add stress and possibly unneeded worry. I am somewhat angry at my healthcare provder for suggesting this as I have told her repeatedly that no matter what "imperfections" may be indicated that I would never terminate. It's my right to "choose" and I CHOOSE to keep my baby, imperfect or not. To suggest that I might want to find out my odds of having a chromosomal abnormality (trisomy 21, turner's syndrome were what was suggested) at this stage in the game is, as I have found, strictly to be able to fit in the window of legal termination. It is not as if anything can be done to help the fetus (unlike the case of later term testing that can indicate health issues that can be addressed so the baby can be helped immediately upon birth as in the case of heart conditions, spina bifida, cleft palate, etc.)

I know that healthcare providers want to offer as much info as possible to both cover their own asses from lawsuits and also to appease those in the populace in their quest for "designer" babies.

How dare ANYONE suggest my lil' fetus is not worthy of being born! That's just my mother bear instinct and I'm sticking with it!

I don't feel that someone who felt differently about their own pregnancy is WRONG for feeling that way. But in our circumstances, we have a loving supportive family, decent income, good health insurance, easy access to excellent healthcare/specialists, and a mom (me) who has already dealt with a child with "special needs" and knows the system fairly well.

My feeling is that stressing out in no way helps my baby, so to ME, I'd rather focus on keeping myself healthy, rested, well-nourished. What's true with grown children is true with unborn babies: "Ain't nobody happy if mom ain't happy!"

Grr....

Calming things for me:

1. rent funny old comedies on video to veg out with
2. got a big box of treats from Spunky Dunkers donuts
3. talking to my parents (especially my dad)
4. sleeping
5. keeping busy with housework