My kid made no mention of it, but I took the situation to heart.  I understand that the party she was arranging is quite an expensive venture ($13 per kid according to the fliers posted around the bowling alley) and thus it would be mad to invite all 22 kindergardeners. However, I also know that Anabella's mother is part of a sort of "clique" of moms who hang out and chat while dropping the kids off at school.  I have been avoiding the "chatty mom's club" ever since the kindergarden open house when one woman I knew slightly asked about my obvious pregnant state. Apparently I offered too much information as, upon hearing about the baby's maladies, she just stared back at me, literally slackjawed, in horror with no verbal reply. I have not volunteered any such information since. I still get occasional "Oh when are you due?" "Do you know what you're having? (boy or girl)" and so on from both aquaintences and total strangers. I now try to ignore the questions or divert the subject matter. Sometimes I get the inquiring minds to back off by merely stating, "Well I'd rather not discuss it. There are some problems."

I am not sure if slackjawed mom relayed my pregnancy issues to other classroom moms or what but both the "group" and I seem to elude the awkwardness by me standing away from the crowd or staying in my car at drop-off time or them not even looking at me anyway. I was fine with that "arrangement" until I felt like my lack of "connecitvity" to other parents trickled down to my daughter being excluded from the "invite" list. 
Or who the hell knows...maybe my actions wouldn't have mattered anyway. But it made me sad, nonetheless. I don't think any parent wants to see their kids feelings get hurt, but for some reason, I was the one with the broken heart this afternoon.