 I am an East Coast expatriate hiding out in the Midwest... I am an urban gal living in the suburbs and occasionally hiding in the country I am a yoga practitioner, fitness enthusiast, believer in the mind-body-spirit connection... I am a mid-life "revert" to the Roman Catholic faith in which I was raised and which has become an enormous source of support, encouragement, inspiration, and joy in my life... I am a mom, sister, daughter, and wife... I am an explorer; adventurous and curious about the world and people around me... I am educated in the formal sense but I gain insight through everyday living... I created this blog at a time of great fear and apprehension in my life. I chose to sustain it because of the discoveries about myself and the world around me that it has revealed. What you can expect to find here: the documentation of a love-hate relationship with the greater Philadelphia area reminiscing about the good-ole-days (the 80's!) complaints about my various ailments and injuries, both real and imagined pictures and stories of gardening, decorating, shopping, sewing my love of irony links to kooky news stories way too much scatological musing for sane people
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Wednesday, April 27, 2005
I've been thinking about posting some personal stories for awhile but I just haven't been "up to it" so to speak.
A few weeks back, after I had my mammogram, I briefly noted that my dad had to have a prostate biopsy due to elevated PSA levels at his annual physical. After some research he and the rest of the family had positive outlook as the odds were in his favor: 75% of men his age with similar PSA levels have no cancer at all. Unfortunately he got dealt the bad odds and found out from the biopsy results that he has prostate cancer.
Since he is young (only 58) it is recommended that he have a radical prostatectomy - which is hard to pronounce and spell, but even more diffcult to go through and recover from. It is a 2-hour operation where, well, I'll spare the gory details but there is slicing and dicing of necessary body parts to remove the gland and then hopefully successful re-attachment of these severed parts. It is a 4-6 week recovery. He is lucky in some respects in that he has gotten control of his weight, blood pressure and glucose levels over the past few months. From a financial standpoint he is able to take short-term disability as well as stay in touch with his team by working from home a bit as he is able.
I wanted to wait before I posted about this as he still has to have some additional scans next week to make sure the cancer has not spread elsewhere. Barring that, he is 100% going full-speed-ahead with the radical operation.
I am not worried about the "Big C" as much as I am worried about this operation. Its so involved and can have some heavy quality-of-life repercussions if those previously-mentioned "reattachments" don't go well. I know my parents have been working hard to secure everything for his retirement in 5-6 years. My worries are that the procedure goes well, that he won't be in alot of pain/discomfort after it, and that it won't hamper their future plans together.
They are a very close, loving couple and in some ways they are quite co-dependent on one another. So in a way I worry about them BOTH, not just my dad.
My parents happen to be in town this week for meetings my dad is attending for work. My mom is on her way to my house at this moment, taking the train from Chicago, and then dad will drive out here for dinner tonight. Tomorrow and Friday they will be here too. We plan to just enjoy the time together and not "overschedule" it with tourist trappings.
I'm not writing this to garner sympathy posts from anyone - when someone is sick, its always sad, and I know most human beings would, when hearing such news, offer good thoughts and wishes. So I thank everyone in advance for that.
Posted at 10:01 am by brandy101
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Thursday, April 21, 2005
I've been swamped with various chores, projects, appointments...as well as babysitting duty for our new kitten, "Percy". We got him on Monday afternoon and I've had few sleep-filled night since! He appears to be long-haired and although his eyes are blue-gray now, I would not be surprised if they change to green.

I will likely be very busy for the next two weeks with more appointments, out-of-town visitors, and continuing babycare. He is barely 6 weeks old but is doing well on his food and the "kitten glop" I made to give him that extra nutrition boost. (A sort of pudding made from yogurt, evaporated milk, egg, and gelatin.) He's doing great with his litter box but is sort of pestering our dog and "senior citizen" cat, Buster, so I have to really keep an eye on him as they are tolerant of him but I'd hate to see him push the envelope too much with his antics!
Posted at 09:14 am by brandy101
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Monday, April 18, 2005
We explained to my curious daughter that "Aunt Patsy" (the lady who died) was creamated as she was asking why we didn't attend a ceremony after Mass to "put her body in the ground."
On Sunday she was still chatting about Friday's funeral-related events and went over her mental checklist for us as she was about to ask another question:
"Mommy, you know Aunt Patsy, the lady who died and was primated..."
"No honey," I replied, stifling my snickering, she was "creamated."
"Oh yeah, creamated," repeated the kid.
Naturally her dad had to chime in, "Yeah, they didn't turn her into a monkey!"
Posted at 09:35 am by brandy101
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Friday, April 15, 2005
Today during the funeral mass for hubby's Aunt, my mind wandered a bit during the eulogy, given by one of her sons.
In typical kindly fashion, he reminsced on fun family times, special treats mom made for the kids etc etc. I began thinking about what memories I'd like to mention as being utterly palpable and yet solely associated with that person being eulogized. I thought of my 82-year old grandmother and how, when she'd come to visit, she always had one of two "surprises" for us girls.
If she took the train to our house from Center City, she'd somehow manage to tote her purse, a small suitcase and a large box of oversized cupcakes from a bakery in Suburban Station (now, gone from there many years) called "Hanscombs" or "Hanscomes" - I tried to google it thinking I could hardly be the only Philadelphian notstalgic for their baked goods (cupcakes and ladyfingers were specialties) but I came up with nothing.
Anyway...
If my grandpop ("Pop Pop") drove she'd come with a shopping bag full of treats and always had a huge pack of those crazy wax tubes full of sweet, hyper-dyed liquid. I gravitated on those wax sticks for a long time in Mass - so much so, that I think it altered the taste of the communion host in my mouth! I just read a mention of the unnamed wax stick on Miss Ginger's blog and had to mentioon my fascination with them back then as well as today .
Posted at 06:54 pm by brandy101
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Monday, April 11, 2005
So...
My husband's Aunt died on Sunday; she was on a ventialtor in a hospital in Florida and per her Living Will had the plug pulled. So...
He and I aren't saddened by it as she was a relation by marriage, not a person we had much contact with largely due to geography, she was never a healthy person to begin with (thus little-to-no shock in her demise), and she wasn't particularly young (we are guessing mid-70's.) Basically I only really conversed with her a handful of times since I married into the family. And that's likely one handful less than the amount of contact my husband had with her.
I feel badly that I don't feel badly about this.
But what can you do, huh? I went in my desk and got out a Mass card and now hubby is on the phone calling his brothers and mom to inform them of Auntie's recent departure. Tomorrow I'll place an order for flowers.
Apparently even though she and her husband lived much of the year in Florida she has been cremated and her ashes will be waked (?!?! ) and buried here in Illinois.
The worst part is that since he is the only "representative" from his immediate family in the area, he needs to attend at least one of the memorial functions for the sake of social grace. But we have an appointment with an architect Thursday night and he already took today off for a job interview (which was not as fruitful as we had hoped.) The wake is tentatively scheduled for Thusday night (not convenient for us) and the funeral Mass on Friday morning (also inconvenient).
Tell me how bad THIS is: we are hoping that there is a delay in hustling the urn of ashes up here so that the wake and funeral will be delayed into a Friday evening/Saturday morning combo.
Not to mention that I keep re-running the " Beloved Aunt" episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm over and over in my head (and giggling incessantly because of it!)
Yeah, I know, I'm goin' to hell! ;)
Posted at 09:10 pm by brandy101
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Tuesday, April 05, 2005
My kiddo and I had a great time in Philly...we crammed a ton of activites into our short stay.
On my first day back home...oh man, I have so much to do so I anticipate even less in the way of thought-provoking blog postings for awhile. Kiddo went to the pediatrician today, hubby has an interview tonight, I have an architect's visit to schedule, kid goes back to school and I get to visit the gyne! What a week!
Here are some Philly pics from Friday - gorgeous weather as we walked around Center City - mostly near Penn campus and then around the Art Museum/Logan Circle area

The famous fountain at Logan Circle. When he visited Philadelphia in 1979 (I was there, too!) the now-deceased Pope John Paul II said Mass on a huge platform that was constructed over this fountain. The bascilica of Sts Peter & Paul is across the street, as are a number of other must-see tourist destinations: Philadelpha Museum of Art, Franklin Institute, Academy of Natural Sciences, Free Libary, etc.

Me and the kiddo brushing away pebbles and sand in search of "fossils" at the Academy of Natural Sciences.Apparently she was goggle-challenged on this faux expidition.
Posted at 05:05 pm by brandy101
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Wednesday, March 30, 2005
OK, Mammogram result came back clean and clear. Hurrah. But I was told I have to have one annually now; that's ok since its covered by my insurance. Thanks to everyone for your good thoughts - it worked!!!
I called my mom to tell her my good news, and then she informed me that my dad has to have a prostate biopsy because of some recent test results. Grrr...if it isn't one thing, it's something else.
Oh yeah, and we're in a Tornado watch now while some towns southwest of us are getting pummeled with some twisters as I write this. Needless to say, my daughter insisted on watching her "Wizard of Oz" DVD this afternoon!
I'm heading off with my kiddo to Philly for a 5-day family visit tomorrow - I just hope the winds and thunderstorms will die down by then.
Saturday night I plan a visit to the Borgata and maybe a few other casinos; buffet dinner first and then nickle and/or penny slots. Whoo hoo, maybe I'll clean up and win $20 or so! (When you are playing pennies, that's alot of credits!)
Posted at 04:36 pm by brandy101
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Monday, March 28, 2005
I may be absent from the blog/online scene for awhile as I have a really full schedule this week. Playdate for kiddo tomorrow, packing for our trip on Thursday, and (hurrah!) a mammogram on Wednesday.
Oh yeah - can y'all send some good thoughts that that mammogram comes up blank this year - I have too much to do this month to take any time out for a friggin' tumor or two this year!!
:)
Posted at 10:25 am by brandy101
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Friday, March 25, 2005
Dude, that totally shreds....
I just spent 30 minutes picking some teensy bits of former pay stubs, bank statements and mortgage applications out of the gnarly teeth of our apparently sub-par shredder with needle-nose pliers. My back is killing me from bending over that thing and gingerly pulling each snippet out one by one. I finally got it to work again and finished cleaning up that pile of outdated financial papers.
Geeze, I used to work at Arthur Andersen - you'd think I knew a thing or two about proper paper shredding technique...
Posted at 04:14 pm by brandy101
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I am drawing a blank. The only current excitement has been phone conversations with two architects - one of which I'm going to have for an in-home consultation in two weeks, and then coloring Easter eggs today. Big whoop.
Posted at 12:17 pm by brandy101
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